Oh, I like your hair! What a pretty dress! That lipstick looks great on you! Yes, they roll off the tongue quite easily.
How do you feel about accepting compliments?
What, this old thing? Oh, I’ve had this for ages. Yes, but I’m having a bad hair day.
Why do we try to downplay the nice things that people say to us? Why do we feel obliged to point out the things others have obviously overlooked – the bags under our eyes, our scuffed shoes, the coat in need of a wash, etc.
NOT accepting a compliment insults both you and the person complimenting you. It can make that person feel worse than if they’d said nothing at all. My friend Judy who works as a cashier at a Home Improvement store said she makes a point of being friendly and complimenting most every person that comes through her till. She says its surprising how many people do not know how to accept a compliment.
1. Say thank you! End of story. You don’t need to provide the place you bought your purse, how much it cost you on sale, or anything else. Just say thank you.
2. Try a compliment back. Say, “Funny, I was just admiring YOUR shoes!” It could be a great conversation starter.
3. Say something nice like, “Oh, you are so kind/sweet/lovely!” You may not agree with their compliment, but at least you haven’t insulted the person.
4. Smile! It may not be necessary to say anything at all.
Last summer I headed out to do a little shopping. It was a beautiful day, and I decided to take it up a notch and put on a T-shirt dress with a matching cardigan. When I got out of the car, a woman in the parking lot yelled out at me – “YOU LOOK VERY NICE!”. Even though I felt slightly embarrassed, it was a good feeling. I had tried a little harder with my appearance and someone had noticed. I can still remember how the compliment made me fee leven though this happened months ago. Say something nice to someone today!
“Everybody likes a compliment”